Did you look at another girl? Were you not listening to her when she said something important? Did you piss off one of her girlfriends? Were you drunk with the boys all day and all night? Did you miss your anniversary? Accidentally kill her dog? There are so many stupid decisions that men make on a daily basis. No matter what it was that pushed her over the edge, you know what you did wrong…(most of the time)… and it’s time to make things right.
This could take anywhere from 2 minutes up to a lifetime depending on the level of infringement and injustice you have caused her. Having a partner is never a small task and a couple is always going to have differences of opinion and a bit of conflict. It’s the right balance of conflict and resolution can make for a strong and healthy relationship. You just have to remember to listen and be attentive to what she is talking about. Make her love and respect you for being yourself and being honest with her. She wants to hear you say sweet things and treat her better. Don’t just sit there at your own pity party mean muggin’ like this 30’s tough guy. This guy is never gonna get another date with anybody. Even the bird in the mirror doesn’t like what she sees.
Just admit you were wrong. You have to honestly and sincerely apologize for your behavior. Let her know you care about her and what she has to say. If you act like it’s her fault and disagree with her it will just prolong the conflict, no one will be happy and it will eventually ruin the relationship. Even if she is wrong just listen to her complain about what is bothering her and when she gets done she will feel better. Most of the time they are not even mad at YOU!! They love you and care enough about you to bitch at you. They are mad about the job, the guy that objectified her on the street on the way to your place or they have on their cozy monthly sweatpants. Women just want you to listen. I can’t stress this ManLaw enough. They don’t want solutions, suggestions or guidance. Just LISTEN!! Make her feel comfortable telling you whats bothering her and just let her cry and get it all out.
You should be doing this always anyways, but when she’s upset, you have to treat her like a lady. Sending some flowers to her while she’s at work or having the house clean and dinner ready with some candles and wine the next time she comes over for a visit. The ladies are really big on the little things you do for them. You have to go out of your way to show her you care. Open the door, pull her chair out, say sweet sexy things to her. (If I have to explain to you how to treat her you should read my other posts)
Women have the ability to say things without saying a word. She’s not just gonna tell you what she wants to hear. That would be way too easy and it’s their job to make us squirm a little bit. It’s telling them how gorgeous they are every day or bringing them a glass of seltzer in bed without them asking you. As members of the opposite sex we have to learn to understand these social cues and use them for betterment of Man. The more in tune with her you are, the less you will fight and the better the make up lovin’ when you do get into it.
In closing, just plain old Common Sense will get you through these tough times of distress. There is no magic harmony that descends upon you when you fall in love. Love is a beautiful thing but at some point you will disagree about something. Theres no tricks or games that speed her healing process. Some of the best parts of a relationship is getting to know each other better and a good fight is a pretty good way to get to know someone. To our benefit, boys, to a certain extent they want us to screw up. If you don’t do some bad things once in a while the chicks wouldn’t even talk to you, let alone invite you to her boudoir.
So keep rocking fellas. It’s all good.
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