I recently got these questions from readers of the ManLaws .. I love the questions! Keep ’em coming!
“I need your advice.
What do I do about a man who seems interested, is constantly being flirtatious, but has a girlfriend? Do I give up? Do I make my interests more obvious? Isn’t there a manlaw about stringing girls along?
Dear Ms. Confused,
This guy sounds like a confused female himself. I would tell him to his face if he and I ever met. I also wouldn’t put much stock in this dudes ability to commit to his girlfriend let alone commit with you. If he’s flirting behind her back with you, he doesn’t much care about her or women in general. Even if you did sway him to your side of the tracks, how do you know he’s not just going to do the same thing to you and flirt with other broads. I don’t want to sound like I’m hating on the guy because I don’t know all the circumstances, but usually once a jerk always a jerk. It’s like that old stigma about a husband never leaving his wife for his mistress. He’s never gonna leave his wife, no matter how many times he tells the mistress he will. He’s too much of wuss to man up and deal with his situation. Stringing someone along is the worst. (ManLaw 178)
On the other hand, If you really like the guy, be honest with him and if he’s not into to it, move on. I am certain that it will be his loss. I am also sure you have a long life ahead of you and you will meet other people that will treat you the way you want and need to be treated. Show love and you will receive it in return.
The bottom line is to be yourself. Always. If someone doesn’t like who you are or what you’re into, they can take a long walk off a short pier. I never want to be surrounded by people that bring me down with them. It’s much better to be around someone who pushes you to be a better person and learn more about yourself everyday. To make you stronger, inside and out.
I hope this answers you question.
“Is it true that the days of 18-20 percent, for a spectacular meal are gone? Does the average fella’ gotta pay near 30 percent?”
Dear Average Fella,
The art of tipping varies in different situations. If you really love the place and the staff, tipping extra is not only a sign of gratitude but also usually guarantee of excellent service. The next time you walk in without a reservation you’ll probably get a table much faster and in a nicer part of the restaurant. Maybe even a couple glasses of Champagne while you wait.
When I take my lady out for a spectacular dinner we usually go to one of our many favorite haunts. We not only choose these places because of the amazing food, but for the entire dining experience. The table, the quickness of service and the friendliness you get from the host and the staff. I am not saying you have to pay for people to like you and you should always act like a gentleman anyways, but whats an extra 10 bucks after a 300 dollar meal.
It goes all the way back to the bible, “Do unto others as they would do unto you.” Take care of the people that take care of you and you will be taken care of for life.
Now Mr. Fella, this is not you but here is an extreme example of now not to act at a dinner with a group of friends or a date. We know those hats and cats that when the bill comes they get out there calculator to decide what exact percentage of wine they drank and how many french fries they ate. If you don’t have money, stay home and make a big bowl Top Ramen. If you initiate the date you should pay. If you’re with friends, spilt the check evenly. Don’t stick the rest of the crew with your sales tax and tip. It’s just plain old cheap. Nobody like a cheap skate.